Creating memories

I've been posting more on IG instead of blog or FB since a few years back.  Attempts to revive my blog had been unsuccessful, cos blog takes much more effort to maintain.  

Today is Sunday, Deepavali 2023, and tomorrow is the public holiday for this festival.  And I have time now, so here I am updating this blog.  I decided to title this blog "Creating Memories" rather than "2 Thurs in Nov'23".  Here's the stories surrounding these 2 days.

2nd Nov 2023

I was half way through my trip in Scotland (from 14 Oct - 29 Oct) when I got a text from WK that his mum got admitted to hospital.  It didn't surprise me as she had a fall the month before and had been feeling unwell since.  On Monday the 30th, I visited her after work.  She was of course much better than when she first got admitted.  Got to know from Juin that it was very scary for him/them the week before, as she was not quite lucid as her blood sugar was not under control.  She developed a fever over the weekend.  With the first week over, she was much better on the day that I visited her.  

On Thurs, the 2nd of Nov, WK forwarded a text from Winny, that she got the bad news from the doctor that the lesion in her liver is cancerous.  With her medical history, I believe none in the family was too surprised.  However, the whole of that afternoon my feelings was in such a mess, it must have been much more terrible for Wk and siblings.  Given her weak state, she can't do any surgery nor chemo, the family has accepted that her final days may have arrived.  

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9th Nov 2023

WK's aunts and cousin from Malaysia came to stay over from Friday (3rd) to Sunday (6th).  I spent some nights (after work) tiding up mum's room to house her sisters.  During the weekend, there were lots of catching up, meals together, ferrying around and hospital visits.  Liling the cousin stayed till Thurs, and continued visiting mum on the weekdays.  It was overall a tiring few weeks, but it finally slowed after the aunts left.  

On Thurs morn, I got a text from Wee San on the family group chat.  I thought it must be about the Taiwan trip for the extended family in the last week of Nov.  I was so shocked when I read her message that her Dad (eldest Uncle) was hospitalized and is in critical condition. I went to visit him that night after work, and the big coincidence is he is in the ward next to WK's mum.

For the past 4 days, I've visited him daily.  His condition has not improve, so tomorrow (Monday) and the coming days will be crucial still. On Thurs, he was on strong antibiotics, but by Friday, he's already on blood transfusion.  Although he seems better yesterday (Sat), he doesn't seem good today, so yesterday could be due to him being put on tube feeding, as he needed that (IV drip not enough nutrients) due to the blood transfusion procedure.    

  

It is a rather emotional affair for me to visit my uncle; I learnt that while I was "accompanying" him, he and I are taking separate journeys.   His body is constantly fighting a hard and painful battle; while he is drifting in and out of consciousness, he may know now and then that I am there, but I am hardly the person that he craves for or depends on in this extremely difficult time.  Yet for me, I needed to go daily, because I am not ready to let him go without going through his (could be) last journey with him.  My heart goes out to my dearest cousins, who needed to work, to take care of him, to feel so much sadness and burden.  For me, all I can do is to sit there and feel sad and defeated that each and everyone of us has to go through this final path.  

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This post "started" all because I was doing housekeeping of my photos this afternoon.   I thought that I wouldn't have a photo of my eldest uncle, but to my surprise, I found this picture of us celebrating this year's CNY and Wee San's birthday at my place.  

Below, I've also added WK family CNY gathering this year too.  Both pictures are on my IG, but this is a special post dedicated to the old folks and both families going through this tough time.  I do not know what's the best wish to write here, so I shall end with saying I love you all.  Cherish all good memories.